Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not actually being abused.
You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you — you might not have recognized that your partner has eroded your self-esteem and happiness.
Abuse is not simply physical violence, and it is not just a conflict between two people.
It is a systematic pattern of behaviour used to establish power and control over another person.
How? Through fear and intimidation.
Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not being abused.
That's not necessarily true.
You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you but you don't realize it.
Certainly, not everyone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol abuses his or her partner. Likewise, not every domestic violence abuser has an issue with substance abuse or misuse. However, far too often, the two are related.
Below is a list of books that you may find helpful (you should find any of these at your local library; submit a request for purchase, if unavailable).
A Crash Course in Understanding, Navigating, and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
— by Dana Morningstar
Healing from Hidden Abuse
A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
— by Shannon Thomas, LCSW
When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
— by Susan Forward