Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not actually being abused.
You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you — you might not have recognized that your partner has eroded your self-esteem and happiness.
Abuse takes different forms. Emotional abuse is the precursor to most cases of physical domestic violence. According to recent UN statistics, the occurence of emotional abuse by an intimate partner is much higher than that of physical abuse. Recognizing the early signs is key to stopping abuse before it causes damage.
September is Emotional Abuse Signs Awareness month. Read more about the devastating effects that this form of abuse can have on us.
Get help now! Here's how:
In Canada, visit the Ending Violence Association of Canada website and select the province in which you reside.
In Europe, visit the European Commission's list of hotlines and select the country in which you live (there are 46 countries listed).
In Hong Kong, phone the Hong Kong Federation of Women's Centres hotline @ 2386 6255.
In South America, consult this list of hotlines (by country/region).
In the United States, call The National Domestic Violence hotline @ 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). There are more than 200 languages serviced.
If you can't find a number for your country or region, please try contacting your local resource centre or domestic violence shelter. Don't wait.
Abuse is not simply physical violence, and it is not just a conflict between two people.
It is a systematic pattern of behaviour used to establish power and control over another person.
How? Through fear and intimidation.
Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not being abused.
That's not necessarily true.
You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you but you don't realize it.
Certainly, not everyone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol abuses his or her partner. Likewise, not every domestic violence abuser has an issue with substance abuse or misuse. However, far too often, the two are related.
Below is a list of books that you may find helpful (you should find any of these at your local library; submit a request for purchase, if unavailable).
A Crash Course in Understanding, Navigating, and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
— by Dana Morningstar
Healing from Hidden Abuse
A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
— by Shannon Thomas, LCSW
When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
— by Susan Forward